Tooooo Attached
I have a 9 month old and i feel that I am to attached to him. It took us 13 years to have him(adoption). My husband says that i need to go out without him but i feel guilty. All my friends work during the day so i dont see anyone else during the day except for my son. Any advice??
start slow
I say start slow! Maybe just simply run an errand here or there without him. 30 minutes, just to the bank or to the grocery store, or even just a walk around the block by yourself. Or even start slower and take a "mommy & me" class of some kind. Something that you can do together, but also teaches him some independence (and you too :).
I totally understand though...we went nowhere without our first son. He was such an easy baby, and always seemed to enjoy doing anything, we just didn't feel the need to leave him behind very often. But just remember, if it is hard for you to separate from him, think of how hard the separation will be on him if he never has time away from you! I would say try to start leaving for a few minutes here and there now, before he gets old enough to cry (and make you feel completely quilty) when you have to leave him! A few minutes away from you here and there could be a good thing for him too!
With that, I don't think there is anything wrong with feeling attached to him. He is still very young, and there is plenty of time for both of you to gain your independence from each other at a later time, if now isn't the right time :) Good luck!
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
too attached
can you tell what kind of mommy and me classes there are especially for me who has such a young child??
hmmm....
When Luke was that age I did Little Gym with him, but I know they are closed now. But there is a StrollerFit around, MonkeyBusiness in Granger. I'm not sure what ages they take, but worth looking into!
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
Toooooo Attached
hello, my name is Penny and I know what you mean. I actually have a 14 year old and I have a 10 month old also. He was a wonderful surprise.
I also felt guilty, but I also find that when i did the 30 minutes at a time thing i was actually havin a good time.
I just went back to work, only part time, so I am home alot. I too have friends that work during the day, so my day with them starts when they get home.
Where are you located at?
too attached
i live by south bend country club, just off of pine rd
attachment
Being emotionally and physically attached are different animals. I don't think you can ever be too emotionally attached. Mothers' are their childrens biggest fan, biggest everything. But, physically you do need to continue to grow as individuals. He needs to experience the world off the apron strings and you need to let go enough to have adult experiences of your own. However, noone should ever make you feel shifted too much to one side or the other. Live and love how you see fit. Lynn