toddler behavior
ok moms, i need some help. i have a 19 month old son who is just the apple of my eye and i am struggling with behavior issues im not sure what to do with.
he is a happy child who is outgoing and strong willed, he loves to interact and also likes to watch tv.
the tv habit we try to limit but when he wants to watch it and i say no he screams and hits the tv till he is satisfied one way or another.
he throws food and cries until i take him out of his chair. i do not offer other options, but he doesnt eat as well as he needs to some days.
if its a day we are stuck inside ( thats often cause im 8 months pg and currently in an apartment) he is just restless and is in a bad mood a lot of the time.
then he is defiant, or "testing the waters" i swear he never listens, he knows its wrong but just does it anyway. most of the time he waits till im watching! ahhh!
recently my husband and i are trying to find the best way to correct him with out " breaking his spirit" i am not opposed to spanking but i do feel he is too young to understand. and dont feel its necessary.
please understand me when in say spanking, its not with a paddle or anything. i was spanked as a child and i tell ya i learned that i didnt want those consequences.
so what to do? how can i help teach my child to listen and be strong when i need to correct him?
is this just the terrible twos come early? any advise will be appreciated. thanks!
defiant
When Luke was going through his defiant stage, we used the techniques from the book 1-2-3 Magic! We were consistent, and it worked like a charm! He just turned 4 this summer, and he still settles down if we threaten time outs. Try it, but remember to be consistent.
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
punishment
My daughter is just over a year old and I am 20 weeks pregnant. She knows that mommy doesn't always feel good, so she's constantly "testing the waters" so to say. We give her two warnings and with the second warning we tell her if she doesn't listen she will get spanked. She's starting to listen really well. We don't have to spank that often and when we do it's not incredibly hard. She mostly gets the spankings for standing on furniture because she has likes to test us with that one the most. Time outs work as well. We put her in the high chair we don't use as a time out spot, no tray, no toys and usually facing away from mommy and daddy. I've always heard that it's a minute for as old as they are, so she's usually in the chair only for a minute, but it's long enough for her to get the picture. Good Luck!