Potty Training
I know I wrote about this a few weeks ago,but I am starting to feel like a failure with this. Today our son tells me he has to pee ( this was in the morning) so I dropped everything and took him to the bathroom. Later he tells he has to poo, so I took him to the bathroom he sat on the toliet for 1 min and got up. The neighbor was cutting grass so that was more fun to watch. I asked him if he need to go poo, he said it not coming out. I talked to him about how he may have to wait a minute on the toliet. Around 2 in the afternoon he is standing there and pee's his jeans are soaked. I go and fix it all talk alittle bit to him about the toliet then we are done. Ten mins later he pee's again (the kid drinks alot) in his paints!!!!! I am getting so mad. He is 3 1/2 and a smart kid. I really dont think there is any kind of a learning problem. I am just really scared that I am doing something wrong. Should I make him stay in a pee pull up for a short time? We do reward him when he does pee just maybe not every time but we do always tell him we are proud of him and hug and kiss him. Help me......
You're not a failure!
Potty training can take a lot of time and patience, it definatly doesn't mean you're a failure...I did find these tips and thought they may be helpful for you :-)
**Try reading aloud (together) one of the outstanding books that describe potty use as a part of growing up. My favorite is Toilet Learning by Alison Mack. Illustrations of fire fighters, doctors, baby sitters, and parents all going to the bathroom will delight and educate your child. Watching the same-sex parent or older sibling in the bathroom reinforces this process**
**Buying fun new underwear for them can act as further encouragement**
**Begin putting the contents of their dirty diapers in the potty so they can see what happens. Then give them the opportunity to run around bare-bottomed so they can try to go on the potty if they want**
**If your child is afraid of failure, it is paramount that when he or she does make a mistake, your response is not an exasperated or a punishing one. Instead say something like, "Oops, there it went. Someday soon they're all going to land in the potty. We'll try again." Let them know that accidents are okay and that he or she will ultimately succeed**
**When they do get something in the potty, leave it there for them to admire. Congratulate them warmly, but don't get too excited or they will feel more pressure**
Thank you
Thanks for your advice. I have been getting alittle mad with "accidents" so I will try not to. I also will get that book.
Thanks again :)
naked
Have you tried letting him go naked? I've heard that works for some kids.
Bribery may not be the ideal way to get your child potty trained, but it worked for us, and it didn't cause issues with him always expecting toys or money in his piggy bank for months after being potty trained. The change in his bank and trips to McD's for a reward got old pretty quick, and by then he was potty trained.
This may not work for all kids either, but we basically cleared our schedule for a whole day and hung out in the bathroom literally ALL DAY! It was constantly on both of our minds, neither of us got side tracked and too busy to stop what we were doing to go potty 50 times.
Take a break for a few weeks, drop the subject completely, and try again with a new approach. All kids are different and will do it on their own time.
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
Be patient!
I understand what you are going through. I had a difficult time potty training my son and was getting very frustrated. Then, it was time for Vacation Bible School (the church near us had program for children 3-5 years old). I told him he could go if he didn't wear a pull-up and didn't have accidents. He wanted to go with the other kids and there you go... he was potty trained! You could try to bribe him with something fun coming up. For example, say to him "you can't go on grandpa's boat unless you don't pee your pants". Maybe this only worked for my son, but just thought I would put my two cents in. Also, I know some people have had better luck with having someone outside the home help out (grandma, a kind friend, an older cousin). Anyway, good luck! And remember, it will come! He didn't learn to walk in a day either!
It will happen
I know what you are going through as well. I stopped with diapers when Maya was almost 3. She totally knew what she was doing, it was just getting into the habit of going on the potty. Try limiting drinks to decrease it a little that way. Also, it seemed like as soon as i would get home Maya would pee. I tried not to freak out on her, but I would say oh you peed your pants, let's go change you. Sometimes it would happen again and i would just repeat the process. I have heard of people that have taken their kids every 30 minutes or so. Poop is hard too. I think they just have to be ready, and if you make a big production out of it, they will too and it will be even harder. Stick with it and talk about it as much as possible. One day it will just click and you'll forget all about this. Good Luck!!