new here, pergnant after a loss
hello all, alittle bit about me is that i am 27 yr old college student i have 2 boys 11 and 4 and a 6 yr old step son we are trying to find long story. i have a 8 month old daughter in heaven she was born too soon on may 9th 2007 8 days after my youngest sons birthday and awhole month before my oldest son. i had a very bad pregnancy with her but was greatful for every moment. i suffer from diabtes induced from pcos, beggining kidney failure, bi polar, and insulin resistance. well the end of my pregnancy with ehr i had her at home the hopsitla sent me home for 2 reasons i was too early 13w2d and they said it is a good chance i will not loose her because my cervix was still higha nd closed and she still had fetal tones 5 hours later in my bathroom i lived a nightmare. well we got my body in order and i got the ok to get pregnant and then right before xmas i was late for my af and i took a pregnancy test and it was positive i was only off my nuva ring for a week before i concieved so this is amazing to me. the first ultrasound ihad at womens care center seen the begging of TWINS!!!! could u imagin how excited me and hubby were then the second i went to because they couldnt get aheart beat because i was too early baby 2 sac was colasping and not going to make it and baby 1 was just fine heart beat i heard it too baby one shows development i go back this friday for another ultra sound and i see my speacialist this friday and she will set me up with high risk clinic. well here i am pregnant now no symptoms except ia m so sleepy i have not had morning sickness at all which makes me feel a bit more worried. i thought i was ready again but i dont know if i am i am so scared something bad is going to happen. when i went to visit my daughters grave i toild her thank you for the christmas present and begged her to help me keep her brother or sister ok in my belly. has anyone had aloss and then became pregnant how did they deal with the stress and axiety? i just feel so scared alone in this i dont know what ot think i am 9 w tomarrow btw.
Hang in there....((((HUGS)))
Hi! My name is Melissa. I am a mother to little girl that will be four next month. Every pregnancy is different so you might not have morning sickness. I had it once and that was it. My daughter was born at 24weeks. I was at the dr office for an ultrasound at 10:15AM and symptom free and she came into the world at 1:45PM. There are really good doctors in this area for high risk. I went to Memorial in SB. It's hard but you gotta take it one breath and one minute at a time. One thing that helped me out alot was a message board for preemies. The one I use is on AOL. I am sure that you can find one to suit you that knows exactly where you're coming from to use as a support group. Networking is a big big help. I'm glad you joined michiana moms there's alot of nice people on here. Keep us updated! sending prayers and hugs your way!
Melissa
Blessed to be Bekka's Mommy
Our miracle is gonna be Four on February 13th!!
1 lb 5 ozs 13" to 28lbs 36" Time sure flies!
Good luck
Good luck to you. There are many excellent docs in the area. Say your prayers. God does things for many reasons, some we just don't understand and never will. In the long run, when you look back every that you have been through makes you the person you are today. May be that you are more patient now, more passionate, more compassionate, more of something. I have never lost a child, but have lost my mom at a very young age, she was only 50 and her first grandbaby was only 4 months old. I miss her every day and it dosn't get easier, but I know that she is with me every minute of every day in some way. She is our angel in heaven that watches over us.
Anyways the best of luck to you. Turn to God and he will guide you through it. There is the prayer "Footprints In The Sand" just a brief saying if you haven't heard it.....
Many times a man saw two set of prints in the sand. In the hardest times the man only saw one set of prints in the sand, the man asked God, why in the hardest times of my life I only see one set of prints in the sand, Gods reply to the man was, it was then that I carried you. So true.
**Hugs***
I am sorry for your lost and hope you have good luck this time.
Welcome to Michiana Moms
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Welcome to MichianaMoms. As you've already seen, we have a fantastic group of moms here! I hope you enjoy the site.
I'm so sorry for what you had to go through :( I can certainly understand why you feel overwhelmed with this pregnancy! I did have morning sickness with both my boys, however all other pregnancy symptoms were different for both. I've heard of women having morning sickness with their first, and then none with their others. Maybe it's God's way of giving you a break this time...especially since you have other kids to take care of.
I too know what it feels like to lose a baby. I miscarried at 9 weeks in between Luke and Shawn. I wasn't very far along, but still a heartbreaking loss. And I totally understand where the anxiety comes from while pregnant after losing a child! With Luke, he's my oldest, I had NO fears my entire pregnancy, I was just happy to be pregnant and never once thought anything could go wrong. I got pregnant with Shawn only a couple of months after my miscarriage, and after a loss, you truly realize how fragile pregnancy is! I had fear, stress, a million questions with my 3rd pregnancy...like I had never been through it before, but it was because I was so worried. Luckily, I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was almost 9 weeks along, so it helped in those early weeks not to stress and worry. I now have 2 very healthy (well, not this week, everyone is SICK) boys, and they truly are a blessing.
Hang in there! Try not to dwell on the baby you lost because it will make your pregnancy very long. Keep in mind all pregnancies are VERY different. And you can always come here with questions, concerns, or just to vent!
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
Thinking of you
I'm so sorry for what you've been thru. My mom has always told me God never gives you more than you can handle. Sometime I've had my doubts, but I know that she's right and he knows what he's doing! I'll keep you and your little one on the way in my thoughts and prayers.