Defiant Toddler
Anybody else's toddler bad. My 3 year old girl she doesn't listen and when I tell her no she continues to do it without a care she hits kicks and bites me she screams and she only does it to me she demands me to get or do things for her. I have read 1-2-3 magic nothing in there works she will not even sit in time out for me spankings don't even work I don't know what to do with her anymore.
Any suggestions?
Hello?
Anyone???? Please???
Consistency
My son is 3 and he seems to be at the stage where he needs some extra attention. It's pretty obvious that he is just trying to push our buttons and argue just for the sake of arguing. This is something my husband and I are working on also, but we are trying hard to ignore the bad behavior and NOT argue back!! Your daughter is probably sensing that you are exhausted from being pregnant, probably don't have as much energy to entertain her, etc., therefore it may just be her way of begging for attention. We've found that consistent discipline is the key...otherwise they learn to take advantage! If she hit, bites, etc., the punishment should be the same EVERY time. We've also found that the punishment has to hurt...on a kids level! Take away her favorite toy, take away her TV time...the things she enjoys. If you are consistent, she may see that her behavior only gets her stuff taken away, and it isn't getting the attention she hoped for. I think sometimes kids become immune to spankings...they realize it only hurts for a second, then it's over. Also, if she is hungry for some attention, maybe try to take her and do something with her...just mommy-and-me. Even if she is bad and misbehaves, just try to enjoy some time with her, and maybe do it once a week or something special....she may start to respond postively to her special time with you! Good luck! And good luck with the new baby!
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
JessicasCandles@gmail.com
something else
Something else we learned a long time ago, and I think Kim mentioned it in another thread, if your daughter doesn't listen or do what you ask of her, give her choices. If she doesn't want to do what you ask, then say your choices are X and Y, you choose! It has worked great for my son...he feels like he is in control of the situation, but he still ends up doing what I asked of him in the first place. Example, my son has been wanting to wear shorts and tee shirts lately...obviously it's too cold. So I pick out 2 shirts and say, you can have the red one or the blue one, you choose. It's not what he wanted, but yet in the end, he's usually ok because it was HIS decision. Just a thought!
Jessica
~ Mommy to Luke and Shawn
JessicasCandles@gmail.com
Yeah
I have tried those many things I talked to someone today and I'm thinking medication. Madison Center after the Holiday's I have tried she has no favorite thing or toy and The tv thing done that I do many things with her Mc'D's the park ect.. she just beats me up more. She honestly hates me I think. I give her options and I get no response with her. I think Medication is probably the only thing there is I took her to the doctor way back in the spring he told me to get that stupid book that doesn't work. It just has been getting worst. So just make it through these next couple of months and do the Madison Center thing maybe they can help her. My daughter just doesn't care. And that's my problem. It would be nice if I had more help with her but I don't get any from the hubby or anything but my mom is trying to step up and help so maybe we will see. I guess....