daughter accused of "touching"

you could tell your sister that you spoke with your daughter and that there are differences in the stories yet you discussed the issue with her and leave it at that. I don't know your sister, or the child, but you must take into consideration if the others are known to lie and if not then maybe there might be other issues to look at with your other neice. Attention getter, really something going on, other problems for the child, trying to get the cousin in trouble....

Now being on the opposite end of the spectrum... does the children involved have access to this kind of material to help with their actions and if so then then actions can somewhat be accounted for, if not then you have to wonder where the kids are getting ideas from. Something similar happened to a 4 year old relitive and the doc said at the age of 4 you must believe the 4 year old because most don't have the idea or knowledge to come up with story.

Most doctors would tell you to believe your child, you need to look at the given situation as well-as mentioned above.

Its a tough situation you may have to limit the interaction that your daughter has with her cousin for the time being...maybe someone is being bullied as well.

Thank you, I have been so stressed over this. What is comes down to is that kids do fool around, and kids do lie, so I think I'll just leave it at that. The only thing I could think of, if my niece is lying, is that I had told her before that sleep-over not to hit my daughter, that my daughter told me her cousin had been mean to her and hit her in the past. I don't know if she is getting back for my daughter telling on her, or what.

This is so sad that so many make a very big awful deal about this. All children are naturally curious. No matter who started it, maybe your sister will let you talk to both girls. We did this with our cousin too. Everybody always says "she did it, no she did it..." We'll never really know. I said to both of them at the same time. Our family doesn't touch other people on their private spots. It makes other people feel sad. If you have questions ask me or your mommy. Do you want to ask me a question? My niece started to cry and my daughter just sat there. Nobody asked any questions so I left the room. I called her mom right then and told her what I said. She said she would also talk with her when she got home. We not a had a issue since. My daughter asks a lot of questions to us and I always tell her the truth even when my face gets red and I feel sick. But, you want your daughter to feel safe telling or asking you about her body especially.Try not to let it weird you out.